straight edger loves an occasional user

[missjulz]

is it possible
for a person who doesn't do drugs to date someone who is a
"responsible (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Responsible_drug_use)" and "occasional" user of painkillers and psychoactives?
(no, he is not addicted and he doesn't do crack or heroin, nor does he
want to.)

has any of you ever tried to date an occasional drug user, and did it work out? or do you know anyone?

any comments are appreciated. thanks!

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is it possible
for a person who doesn't do drugs to date someone who is a
"responsible (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Responsible_drug_use)" and "occasional" user of painkillers and psychoactives?
(no, he is not addicted and he doesn't do crack or heroin, nor does he
want to.)

has any of you ever tried to date an occasional drug user, and did it work out? or do you know anyone?

any comments are appreciated. thanks!

I've tried. It didn't work out. Largely in part because I couldn't stand being around my girlfriend at the time when she was drunk or high. This works if you're just dating, but living together andbeing around them constantly means you'd have to deal with them in that state. I would however honestly worry about anyone that is using painkillers, especially shit like oxycotin or codiene that are highly addictive even occasionally. You just have to ask yourself if it bothers you or not.

[NailedtotheX]

i dated a girl who was edge when we were first going out. she broke edge, which bothered me a bit but i let it go since it was her life not mine. she smoked pot occasionally, but that grew more and more consistent, and she started getting pissed that i didn't want to be around her when she was fucked up. she ended up on painkillers and that ended pretty fast. most girls i date aren't edge though, not many kids are edge in south jersey- they all start drinking out of boredom.

[mouseman004]

is it possible
for a person who doesn't do drugs to date someone who is a
"responsible (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Responsible_drug_use)" and "occasional" user of painkillers and psychoactives?
(no, he is not addicted and he doesn't do crack or heroin, nor does he
want to.)

has any of you ever tried to date an occasional drug user, and did it work out? or do you know anyone?

any comments are appreciated. thanks!


I Think it is possible but its a situation where the two of you need to set boundaries. When I started dating my girlfriend she was a drinker. She knew it bothered me when she drank but I specifically told her that I would not expect her to stop drinking just because I didnt drink, even if it bothered me. Then one day on her own accord she told me that she would stop drinking for me. She still drinks the occasional time, but she will never drink around me and she will always check with me before she does drink. I'm not saying you have to own her or give her permission, im just saying talk to her about it or set some compromises or boundaries if both of you are willing to do so.

[kelly]

I don't have a problem dating someone who drinks occasionally, but taking prescription drugs recreationally isn't really something that can be done "responsibly." There's a reason these drugs are strictly controlled.... And what's the difference between him doing painkillers illegally and taking heroin or crack? Both heroin and cocaine were initially developed as painkillers... Just because he's taking a pill and not smoking it or using a needle, it's ok? As Dusty said, these substances are highly addictive, and can be dangerous... not really a sign that a person is in the appropriate mental state to participate in a healthy relationship.

[missjulz]

i really appreciated the advice. i talked it over with him the other day and he said he ultimately wants to rid himself of everything. its a matter of conquering "old demons." but i've influenced him so much already that he doesn't use drugs like he used to.

[hxcsxe]

is it possible
for a person who doesn't do drugs to date someone who is a
"responsible (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Responsible_drug_use)" and "occasional" user of painkillers and psychoactives?
(no, he is not addicted and he doesn't do crack or heroin, nor does he
want to.)

has any of you ever tried to date an occasional drug user, and did it work out? or do you know anyone?

any comments are appreciated. thanks!
yeah who wants to be round someone who relise on drugs

[xJONNYSCREAMx]

is it possible
for a person who doesn't do drugs to date someone who is a
"responsible (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Responsible_drug_use)" and "occasional" user of painkillers and psychoactives?
(no, he is not addicted and he doesn't do crack or heroin, nor does he
want to.)

has any of you ever tried to date an occasional drug user, and did it work out? or do you know anyone?

any comments are appreciated. thanks!


Obviously, talk to them about it. They don't NEED that prescription drug. They should have you instead.

[karoljo]

My fiance drinks and smokes tobacco, and it bothers the hell out of me. I'm currently trying to get him to quit, and right now he still drinks around me when we are out but he's starting to not smoke around me because he knows it really bothers me since I stopped all of that shit.

[straightXed]

My fiance drinks and smokes tobacco, and it bothers the hell out of me. I'm currently trying to get him to quit, and right now he still drinks around me when we are out but he's starting to not smoke around me because he knows it really bothers me since I stopped all of that shit.

so how do you go about getting him to stop?

[karoljo]

so how do you go about getting him to stop?

I haven't gotten him to stop yet. But I'm trying to get him to quit for our daughter's sake. I remember growing up my father would have a few beers or more every night and his breath always reaked of beer and cigarettes and it made me not even want to hug him or get remotely close to him. I'm hoping thinking about his own little girl snubbing him because of that will eventually get him to quit both drinking and smoking cigarettes.

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I haven't gotten him to stop yet. But I'm trying to get him to quit for our daughter's sake. I remember growing up my father would have a few beers or more every night and his breath always reaked of beer and cigarettes and it made me not even want to hug him or get remotely close to him. I'm hoping thinking about his own little girl snubbing him because of that will eventually get him to quit both drinking and smoking cigarettes.

good luck with that, but for the health of your kid I'd focus on the smoking more than the drinking.

[missjulz]

Hey just wanted to thank everyone again. I finally broke it off with him for good last saturday unless he made the choice of his own to quit everything. He kept falling back into his habits after which he'd go through phases of improvement, then back again. But I'm tired and got a future to think about. I feel really good about my choice. Thanks!

[D1988]

Hey just wanted to thank everyone again. I finally broke it off with him for good last saturday unless he made the choice of his own to quit everything. He kept falling back into his habits after which he'd go through phases of improvement, then back again. But I'm tired and got a future to think about. I feel really good about my choice. Thanks!

Well this thread is from a while back now so I am assuming you have given him more than enough chances over that time to stop the drugs. It's a good thing that you are happy with your decision of ending the relationship, time for you to move on to better things. Good luck.

[xGriffox]

I've dated people who use drugs, not painkillers (at least at the time i dated her), now i am dating a girl who is vegan and hasn't used drugs at all within a year or two though doesn't claim edge. I would say it's better to date someone who sees eye to eye with you on issues like these. My old girlfriend and i would often discuss the morality of drug/alcohol use and the whole subject got tired after a while and neither of our minds were changed. It's definitely possible to date a user but i would say it's more enjoyable to date a like-minded person.

[hxcsxe]

i have noticed most girls i like or fancy and end up datin tend to not smoke so in theory means i am attracted to the certain girl but dont notice it until i find out she is a non smoker or a pot head, i dont have a problem with girls who drink but they do tend to calm it if there with me, i only hate drinkers when they do it to get pissed and not because it can be nice to have jsut one or 2, i myself live with alcoholics and they dont get me but oh well

[HunterTrueBlu]

it CAN work, you just need to lay down the ground rules. It can be very hard though, especially if the person is very self destructive, just because its very hard to watch someone you care about do that. I find life easier when im with someone who is clean.

[xCrucialDudex]

it CAN work, you just need to lay down the ground rules. It can be very hard though, especially if the person is very self destructive, just because its very hard to watch someone you care about do that. I find life easier when im with someone who is clean.

So do I. In all honesty I can't really believe that two persons, one being (just for example) a regular drinker and second straight edge, that they can get along. This difference has so great impact on a person's habits, way of thinking and socializing, well mindset that it is obvious that there is way too much to separate you than unite. Maybe this is just me but I have a gut feeling that it's never going to work out right.

[HunterTrueBlu]

yeah well, i've never been able to make it work, but i guess thats because I'm REALY firm in my straight edge lifestyle. Not saying im hate edge, to eatch his own, but i realy cant have any of that stuff around me. Im only 14 so i dont have to deel with this yet, (well not as far as with a gf atleast) but i can't imagine how someone like me could live with a regular drinker.

[xGriffox]

so it turns out my girlfriend's dad is straight edge. I had no idea. I knew he had a bunch of old black flag, bikini kill, and other hardcore LPs but i didn't know he was edge. He's a cool dude.

[D1988]

so it turns out my girlfriend's dad is straight edge. I had no idea. I knew he had a bunch of old black flag, bikini kill, and other hardcore LPs but i didn't know he was edge. He's a cool dude.

Wow, I think that would be pretty incredible! Imagine the awesome stories he could tell you (assuming he has been edge since he was younger).

[PROPER JERK]

My girlfriend smoked like 2 cigs a day when I met her but now doesn't, I don't mind when she drinks... usually a pretty fun character.

Girlfriends dad being sxe would be cool, get him to do stage dives off random pieces of furniture for you.

[xCrucialDudex]

Next time I'm gonna date a girl I'll ask her if her dad is straightedge. If she replies "No" or smth like that I'll tell her that her chances to get me have just incredibly got slim.

[truthb4trust]

my wife smoke cigs but never drinks and certainly does nothing else... she's trying to quit and me being sxe I think makes it easier