Respectfulness

[funwithpinetrees]

So here is this feeling I don't know what t do wit.

I think all my friends who smoke pot are very super respectful of my straight edge, even if they don't know exactly what it is. They respect it a lot, in fact they even champion it inside of me and encourage me to not do it becase they are doing it.

So even though they are all super good about it to me.

I feel like I just don't respect their decisions to drink and smoke. Like I think they are stupid. I have always been super respectful about it. But in my heart and I not respectful of it. I don't accept their beliefs as being good.
This is something I have have tried to communicate to them. But I don't know what good it would do. I have really been looking for ways to be respectful of them before saying anything.
I just feel like a pushy person for not being able to respect this and thinking everyone has to adhere to my life values.

Does anyone else ever feel that way, or relate?

[xsecx]

So here is this feeling I don't know what t do wit.

I think all my friends who smoke pot are very super respectful of my straight edge, even if they don't know exactly what it is. They respect it a lot, in fact they even champion it inside of me and encourage me to not do it becase they are doing it.

So even though they are all super good about it to me.

I feel like I just don't respect their decisions to drink and smoke. Like I think they are stupid. I have always been super respectful about it. But in my heart and I not respectful of it. I don't accept their beliefs as being good.
This is something I have have tried to communicate to them. But I don't know what good it would do. I have really been looking for ways to be respectful of them before saying anything.
I just feel like a pushy person for not being able to respect this and thinking everyone has to adhere to my life values.

Does anyone else ever feel that way, or relate?

chances are your friends aren't that respectful about your beliefs either.

[funwithpinetrees]

that is an interesting way to think about it

[sXe 4 lyf]

the way I see it, is that you should respect or try to respect your friends decisions, its kind of like, and this is how i think doesn't apply to everyone, but i am kind of like "ok you drink and smoke and do things that i consider bad, but I probably do things you dont like either such as, not doing any of that stuff." and I try to show them that you can have fun and NOT be drunk or stoned or anything. I mean there is a LOT of stuff I HATE my friends doing and I am like "omg i cant believe you did that," but i tell them how i feel and I leave it at that, cause everyone has an opinion and everyone has the right to do what they want, I think it is just best to respect that cause there is a lot of stuff out there that can be construed as bad and if you, I dont know, have a problem with stuff they do and make a deal out of it, you are going to end up with no one.

But each to their own, I mean i could be completely wrong here but this is my take on everything :)

[xAdamSx]

I think you're spot on 'sxe 4 lyf'. I consider the culture of drinking/smoking bad, and I don't like that most o my friends indulge in it, but at the end of the day I became sXe for me, and not to try and lead my town into an anti-drinking revolution or anything. I don't agree with them in their ways but I won't villify them for it and they won't villify me for not joining them. Just let people be themselves, it's up to them to live the way they want, as it is for me to live the way that I want to.

[xZachArlenx]

If you're like me then you try and get them away from what they are doing but don't try and force them. My friends are all really respectful about my lifestyle and I respect theirs. All you can really do is let them be themselves. I give them my opinion, they give me theirs, and we respect each other. Simple as that.

[xsecx]

If you're like me then you try and get them away from what they are doing but don't try and force them. My friends are all really respectful about my lifestyle and I respect theirs. All you can really do is let them be themselves. I give them my opinion, they give me theirs, and we respect each other. Simple as that.

if you're trying to get them away from what they're doing, how are you respectful of their lifestyle?

[xZachArlenx]

if you're trying to get them away from what they're doing, how are you respectful of their lifestyle?

I said I try to but don't force them. I get groups together on friday and saturday nights to watch movies and do whatever. I just try and get my friends to have fun doing other things, and if I can get them to do that with me then they won't be smoking that night. It's more of an indirect thing.

[xsecx]

I said I try to but don't force them. I get groups together on friday and saturday nights to watch movies and do whatever. I just try and get my friends to have fun doing other things, and if I can get them to do that with me then they won't be smoking that night. It's more of an indirect thing.

yeah but the entire point is that you're trying to change people, that's not respecting their lifestyle. I agree with what you're doing, I just don't think you should kid yourself into thinking you respect other peoples choices when you're trying to change the way they live.

[Lifestyle_X]

I'm honest about this. I don't respect my friends' lifestyle, it more than bugs me when they go out in the weekend just to drink and smoke some pot (it's not always like that, don't get me wrong). Even if they're my friends, I hate it when they do that. I tried to teach 'em some common sense, but that's just the way how they like to spent Friday or Saturday's eve.

[xZachArlenx]

yeah but the entire point is that you're trying to change people, that's not respecting their lifestyle. I agree with what you're doing, I just don't think you should kid yourself into thinking you respect other peoples choices when you're trying to change the way they live.

To each his own. I have better crap to do than argue on the internet.

[xsecx]

To each his own. I have better crap to do than argue on the internet.

yeah but the irony here is that you don't think "to each his own". I hope that one of those things is some introspection so you can start being honest with yourself.

[xZachArlenx]

I meant to each his own meaning, "Obviously we aren't going to agree so it's a waste of time for us to argue about it, so let's just drop it here." We have different opinions on what's respectful and what isn't, and that's fine.

[xsecx]

I meant to each his own meaning, "Obviously we aren't going to agree so it's a waste of time for us to argue about it, so let's just drop it here." We have different opinions on what's respectful and what isn't, and that's fine.

how do you think trying to change people is respectful of their lifestyle?

[xZachArlenx]

how do you think trying to change people is respectful?

Doesn't matter what I think, END OF DISCUSSION. I don't feel I have to explain myself.

[xsecx]

Doesn't matter what I think, END OF DISCUSSION. I don't feel I have to explain myself.

welcome to a world where when you say things that don't make sense, people are going to question you about them. You don't want to discuss things, then maybe being on message boards just aren't for you.